Love Island: why Alex’s ‘natural beauty’ ideal is problematic

If someone is self-conscious about their appearance or has specific insecurities concerning their skin, then the prevalence of “natural beauty ideals” could induce feelings of worry and stress.

“The idea that the ‘natural look’ is desired or preferable, particularly if someone has insecurities about their appearance, is likely to make them more anxious,” says Toby Ingham, a UKCP registered psychotherapist.

“The more we judge ourselves against some apparent natural look, the worse we may feel about ourselves.

“If you get too attached to an idea that your self-esteem depends on meeting someone else’s aesthetic taste it is easy to feel like a failure.”

Sabrina Barr
The Independent
24 July 2018

Body language experts reveal hidden ‘tension’

Psychologist Toby Ingham tells FEMAIL: ‘The individual pictures suggest that Victoria is holding on, and David is looking away and leaning away from her.

‘David’s body language appears to suggest tension. He looks tight across his shoulders as though he is withdrawing into himself and away from Victoria.

‘Victoria is embracing him, looking up into his face. She appears to be trying to get his attention. His attention appears to be elsewhere.’

Toby adds: ‘There is a sense of confusion, hurt and conflict in Victoria’s look. But when we watch the images as a moving sequence the story looks rather different. 

‘When we see the video as a moving film we get a better sense of the context of the situation. Instead of a set of individual pictures about a marriage in crisis, the film appears to show that the couple are enjoying and absorbed in the day’s events and being open about their affection for each other.’ 

Toby Ingham is a UKCP registered psychotherapist, member of The Guild of Psychotherapists and The Association of Psychotherapists

Unity Blott
Mail Online
5 July 2018

How to cope if your family is grieving on Father’s Day

Celebrating Father’s Day can be a difficult time for those who are grieving their loved ones but we have some top advice for the bereaved.

June 17th will be a tricky day for those who are missing their dad on Father’s Day but there are ways to help make the day just that little bit easier.

We spoke to psychotherapist and counsellor, Toby Ingham, about what parents can do to help support their children during a time of grief.

Heart Radio London
15 June 2018

Meghan Markle gushes about her husband Prince Harry

Psychotherapist Toby Ingham added that when they were sitting together at the opening of the new Mersey Gateway Bridge today, they seem to be very much at ease with each other.

“The body language of the Queen and Meghan is warm, friendly, they look to be enjoying the time they are spending together,” he said.

“There is formality to the occasion as they step from the train, but the overall tone is relaxed and warm.

“When sitting together they move in towards each other and enjoy a shared joke. The impression of spontaneity and warmth.”

Emma Costello
RSVP Live
15 June 2018

The Worst Thing To Do With Anger Is Bottle It Up, So Here’s How To Flip Your Anger Positive

RSNG’s emotions expert, Toby Ingham, says that locking a lid on your anger is the wrong approach – here he reveals the ways you can engage with it, and funnel it into positive energy instead.

Toby Ingham & Matt Ray
The Rising Man
18 April 2018

Can you regulate psychotherapy?

The Government wants to regulate how psychotherapists do their job. Professionals fear it will make their work impossible.

Andrew Billen
The Times
15 July 2008