Disorganised Attachment

The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory.  When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More

Introduction to Counselling

There are so many different types and styles of counselling that it can be hard to know where to start, or how to make sense of all the different options, styles, counsellors and websites. Here are some ideas to keep … Read More

Barriers To Communication

Good communication is central to developing strong relationships with partners, children and work colleagues.  The more we can understand the barriers to communication that we can unknowingly put between us and other people, the more we may be able to … Read More

Survivor Guilt

Survivor guilt is a term that refers to a complex set of feelings that develop when someone has survived an event that has had serious consequences for others. By surviving the event the survivor feels they have done something wrong. … Read More

Person Centred Values

Person centred values put the values of the individual client at the centre of the therapeutic relationship.  The client’s privacy and confidentiality are key to how work develops.  Fundamental to this approach is the recognition that the client, their needs … Read More

Cocaine Comedown

The term ‘cocaine comedown’ covers a range of possibilities Cocaine use tends to start at parties and social events. Cocaine is probably the number two recreational drug after cannabis.  For some people it stays like that, for others cocaine takes over … Read More

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed?

Feeling overwhelmed immobilises us. We don’t feel safe and we start to shut down which makes things worse. If you can find a way of feeling safe again, then things can start to improve. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Breathe slowly, … Read More

Three Ideas About Mental Health

Mental health is getting a lot of attention.  On balance that is probably a good thing.  It is much better than mental health being a subject that is banished to attics, asylums and hospitals.  It is better that mental health … Read More

Alastair Campbell’s Jam Jar

I thought Alastair Campbell’s contribution to the current films on mental health (BBC2 Alastair Campbell: Depression and Me) was rather interesting.  The impression is of someone who has lived for most of his life battling with depression.  Where did the … Read More

How Psychotherapy Works

There is a lot of confusion about what psychotherapy is and how it works. There are so many competing different models and ideas about how to improve and change your life. A lot of these ideas focus upon changes which … Read More