We all have to find a way to grow up. People who have Peter Pan syndrome haven’t worked out how to. Something in the process of the development of their personality and psychology has stalled or hasn’t been triggered, and … Read More
My mother always tells me to smile and put on a happy face. She told me I had a purpose… to bring laughter and joy to the world. Arthur Fleck How well do you know your shadow? Sometimes a person … Read More
Near the end of Cormac McCarthy’s devastating novel, The Road (2006), the father and son duo who have traveled the post-apocalyptic landscape together, have to say goodbye to one another. The father is dying. The father tells the son ‘you … Read More
The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory. When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More
There are so many different types and styles of counselling that it can be hard to know where to start, or how to make sense of all the different options, styles, counsellors and websites. Here are some ideas to keep … Read More
Good communication is central to developing strong relationships with partners, children and work colleagues. The more we can understand the barriers to communication that we can unknowingly put between us and other people, the more we may be able to … Read More
Survivor guilt is a term that refers to a complex set of feelings that develop when someone has survived an event that has had serious consequences for others. By surviving the event the survivor feels they have done something wrong. … Read More
Person centred values put the values of the individual client at the centre of the therapeutic relationship. The client’s privacy and confidentiality are key to how work develops. Fundamental to this approach is the recognition that the client, their needs … Read More
The term ‘cocaine comedown’ covers a range of possibilities Cocaine use tends to start at parties and social events. Cocaine is probably the number two recreational drug after cannabis. For some people it stays like that, for others cocaine takes over … Read More
Feeling overwhelmed immobilises us. We don’t feel safe and we start to shut down which makes things worse. If you can find a way of feeling safe again, then things can start to improve. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Breathe slowly, … Read More