Imagine you knew that later today your partner would be sleeping with someone else, someone you knew. You could stop them. But you decide that for the benefit of your marriage, and you and your wife’s sanity, you won’t. You … Read More
Literally speaking, animus possession describes a situation in which a woman may have become dominated by the masculine aspects of her personality. Instead of our gendered personality being balanced it becomes stuck. Animus possession refers to a state in which … Read More
Are you struggling with feelings of rejection? The fear of rejection is a basic human anxiety. How secure our relationships are, how we develop a sense of belonging, these experiences are fundamental to knowing how we fit into our families … Read More
You know sometimes I get these crazy ideas about things that may not really be there. Howard Hughes, The Aviator (2004) Do you suffer from unwelcome and intrusive thoughts? Do you feel guilty, or that you may have done things … Read More
We all have to find a way to grow up. People who have Peter Pan syndrome haven’t worked out how to. Something in the process of the development of their personality and psychology has stalled or hasn’t been triggered, and … Read More
My mother always tells me to smile and put on a happy face. She told me I had a purpose… to bring laughter and joy to the world. Arthur Fleck How well do you know your shadow? Sometimes a person … Read More
Near the end of Cormac McCarthy’s devastating novel, The Road (2006), the father and son duo who have traveled the post-apocalyptic landscape together, have to say goodbye to one another. The father is dying. The father tells the son ‘you … Read More
The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory. When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More
There are so many different types and styles of counselling that it can be hard to know where to start, or how to make sense of all the different options, styles, counsellors and websites. Here are some ideas to keep … Read More
Good communication is central to developing strong relationships with partners, children and work colleagues. The more we can understand the barriers to communication that we can unknowingly put between us and other people, the more we may be able to … Read More