Commitment issues
Do you suffer from commitment issues? Are you someone who finds it simple to date and be at the very early stages of relationships, but who struggles to find a way to commit longer term? Do you find yourself starting … Read More
How a life is transformed
How are lives transformed? If someone struggles to build consistency in their lives, for example: they feel depressed or anxious they fail to develop their creativity and potential their relationships fail they don’t seem to make the best kind of … Read More
Construct validity and psychological diagnosis
Is construct validity a helpful term when it comes to psychological experience? Construct validity is a term that is used when attempting to test the validity of a psychological diagnosis, but how useful and accurate is it to think in … Read More
Fear of abandonment
Fear of abandonment For many people a stable and predictable love relationship is something that is hard to enjoy because of an enduring sense of the threat of abandonment. Why do people develop a fear of abandonment? Sometimes it is … Read More
Transforming the fear of rejection
Fear of rejection – a presenting situation A man comes to see me for psychotherapy who has a fear of rejection. He explains this fear holds him back from developing lasting relationships with people. All of his relationships go through … Read More
Are you the black sheep of the family?
Are you the black sheep? A black sheep of the family may feel: excluded, left out of family gatherings disapproved of Sometimes it is used to refer to someone who is different, maybe disreputable or odd. There is something undesirable … Read More
Why do old habits die hard?
Old habits die hard – what stops us changing? ‘Old habits die hard‘ is an enduring phrase because there’s more than some truth in it. It is simple to list the things we intend to change; give up sugar, wine, … Read More
Dealing with a superiority complex
Are you living with someone with a superiority complex? Have you been told you have a superiority complex? Confidence is valuable, without it we wouldn’t have the strength to pursue and keep hold of the things we want. But we … Read More
Why do people commit suicide?
Why do people commit suicide? Perhaps nothing leaves more unanswered questions than death by suicide. The question of how to understand the death, or of what kind of death it is, often remains unanswered. Death by suicide, even when circumstances … Read More
How to manage retroactive jealousy
What does retroactive jealousy mean? In retroactive jealousy at the beginning of a new relationship, one partner is jealous of their partners previous love affairs and relationships. Right from the start of a new relationship there is an insecurity about … Read More