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It can be very difficult to make sense of counselling and psychotherapy, especially at stressful and emotional times.  My work has shown me that;
  • most of the things that distress us can be understood if we can find the right place and time to discuss them  
  • that even if you have suffered profound traumatic upsets, now or in the past, it is possible to improve the way you feel about them, and to improve the way you live
I hope you find the site informative.  There are blog posts, videos and lots of other information and links to help you work out what you want to do next.
If after visiting the site you would like to discuss things further, then please contact me to arrange a free telephone consultation.
I welcome your comments, feedback and ideas, and I look forward to hearing from you.
Thank you for visiting
Kind regards
Toby Ingham

Toby Ingham

UKCP registered psychotherapist, member of The Guild of Psychotherapists and The Association of Psychotherapists. Trained in NHS at St Barts’ Hospital, and Homerton Hospital in London, staff psychotherapist at Nightingale Hospital. Trained at Promis Addiction Centre and Age Concern.

18 years experience of working with people dealing with depression, low mood, anxiety states, trauma, bereavement and addictions.

Short and long term work available

Latest posts

Disorganised Attachment

The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory.  When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More

Introduction to Counselling

There are so many different types and styles of counselling that it can be hard to know where to start, or how to make sense of all the different options, styles, counsellors and websites. Here are some ideas to keep … Read More

Barriers To Communication

Good communication is central to developing strong relationships with partners, children and work colleagues.  The more we can understand the barriers to communication that we can unknowingly put between us and other people, the more we may be able to … Read More

Survivor Guilt

Survivor guilt is a term that refers to a complex set of feelings that develop when someone has survived an event that has had serious consequences for others. By surviving the event the survivor feels they have done something wrong. … Read More

Person Centred Values

Person centred values put the values of the individual client at the centre of the therapeutic relationship.  The client’s privacy and confidentiality are key to how work develops.  Fundamental to this approach is the recognition that the client, their needs … Read More

Cocaine Comedown

The term ‘cocaine comedown’ covers a range of possibilities Cocaine use tends to start at parties and social events. Cocaine is probably the number two recreational drug after cannabis.  For some people it stays like that, for others cocaine takes over … Read More